Women Who Swear


1.Who would you want with you if you were stranded on a deserted island?

I would need my son and my husband with me.  The rest of you can take a hike.  Well, except for when I'm feeling social; then, I would need everyone.


2. If you could do anything you wanted right now, what would it be?

Take a long vacation anywhere warm and read.


3. If money was no object, what would you do all day?     Read, play music, prepare great food and never, ever clean for myself.


4.Where do you most want to travel, but have never been?     Spain


5. What is your favorite memory?     Wow. That is a hard one.  I am lucky enough to have many happy memories. I think my best memory is witnessing my son’s first laughing fit. I mean, the falling down, can’t-catch-my-breath kind of laughing fit.  Adults don’t experience that kind of mirth often enough.


6. Who is your favorite author?     John Irving, Margaret Atwood, Robertson Davies and Stephen King are among my all-time favorite authors.  They are all character masters.


7. What is your favorite book?      Another hard one. I have had many love affairs with books. If I measure my favorite book by the number of times I’ve read it, the winner would be “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior” by Dan Millman.  I read it for the first time at 10 years old and I read it almost annually. Wow, I’ve been doing that for nearly 30 years.



8. What has been your biggest challenge?     My biggest challenge has always been the same; I am an ideas person and I have a bit of trouble in the execution of my ideas. I always need a good partner or a solid deadline in order to get shit done. And to make sure I don’t disappear completely into my introverted nature.


9. What is your biggest success up until now?

That is slippery.  I think success is a moving target.  I am always looking to the next chapter even before the “success” of the last one is realized.  I have been fortunate enough to do some pretty cool things and to work with many inspiring people. I have imagined, organized and pulled off some pretty great fundraisers with my work family.  Those are definitely near the top of my list of successes.


10. What does your perfect day look like?

Coffee, calm, contemplation, creation & cuddles.


11. University or life experience, which do you feel best prepares you for life?    I am not qualified to answer this question.  Is university not just another life experience?   I studied business administration and hairstyling, but earned both qualifications in college as an adult. I never experienced true post-secondary life.  I would love to experience university now.  I love school; I would love to be a student forever.  I don’t necessarily regret not heading to university or college right out of high school, but I would encourage my son to not take a break in between.  I would love for him to experience university life at a young age.  


13. If you were to create a piece of art, what would the subject be?

I am always creating art, the subject is always love. Of self or others.


14.  What one thing would you change if you had the ability?  It took me a long time to realize that I am a person who needs a lot of down time for my mental health. Every time I find myself worried, sick or just not feeling successful, it is because I haven't left myself ebough time for some alone time with me.  Until pretty recently I thought that introverts were never sociaI so I couldn't possibly fit into that category. WRONG!  I know now that I can’t do it all and do it well;  I recharge in my alone/home time.  And that is OK.  I wish I would have embraced this part of my nature a long time ago instead of feeling like something was wrong with me.


15. If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to?

I wouldn’t.  Is that boring?  I want to see what’s around the next corner.


16. What does your life say about you?

What the fuck are you doing?  Haha. Seriously, I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.


17. How would your friends describe you?

Ummm, I think they would say that I am socially unreliable. I am a phone phobe and I bail a lot. But I am a good friend. Honest. Just text me. LOL  I would love it if they said that I was smart, funny, and a solid hang, but I am sure they would just say “Who?  Huh. I forgot she was my friend.  She’s my hairdresser now.”


18. How would you describe yourself?   

Brilliant and beautiful.  Or stupid, ugly and useless. I’m a gemini, I can’t help it.


19.  If you could erase one memory what would it be?       I can’t actually share my top one, it’s too personal.  Maybe my entire grade one class finding out my secret crush because I wrote “ ______ is cute”  on my Get Along Gang game piece, wrongfully assuming I was the only literate first grader in 1984. I was mortified. HA


20.  What is your greatest weakness?  What do you want people to remember about you ?  Sugar and sloth are my greatest weaknesses. I sure don’t want to be remembered for those.  I hope that I am remembered for being kind and for being my son’s mother. And not for the mess I leave behind.


21.  When is your birthday ?           June 12


22.  Do you believe in Karma?  I do believe that balance is natural in our lives and that time is the great equalizer.  I have experienced  “karma,” mostly of the instant variety.  Given the current state of affairs here on earth, I am not sure where the balance rests in nature;  hopefully Karma will shift things to the light in short order.


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